What you always wanted to know about them but didn’t know who to ask. Now you can read this and ask questions later. Threesomes, or threeways, as they are sometimes referred to, consist of three people, of any sex or gender, who engage in sexual activity together. Not to be confused with polyamory, which is about multiple romantic/sexual relationships. We’ll leave that subject alone for now. Promise to get to that some other time.
Threesomes can be arranged in advance, or entered into spontaneously. Usually, but not always, at least two of the participants already know each other and may or may not already be sexually familiar with one another. On rare occasions, all three are newly acquainted. To avoid sudden feelings of jealousy or resentment, I see this as the best configuration.
There is little empirical information available regarding the frequency of the threesome as a sexual encounter, but there are plenty of anecdotal reports to refer to. Most credible reports are from people who “share” their stories with friends and confidants. As expected, men appear to be the instigators of this phenomenon. Typically, men prefer the MFF, one guy, two girls arrangement. At least that is what men say they want. Think about homophobia and that explains it. The threesome where there are no women involved, gay couples usually looking to “spice things up” a bit, have been known to venture into this arena. Three women engaging in this behavior is even less frequently reported. Females who initiate the women-only threesome, from what I have observed, are often couples where one or both (usually one, but not always) is bisexual. The partner who wants an occasional penis in the mix may be more likely to get her way if her partner (wife or girlfriend) wants to please her mate or just make it less likely that she’ll find a dude on her own.
What inspired me to cover this topic is an article I recently saw in The Huffington Post Arts and Entertainment section. The author, Clair Fallon, talks about how the subject of threesomes has been covered on television specifically. Until recently, the MFF has been portrayed as erotic and satisfying but, if and when, there is a MMF threeway shown, it is treated as a joke and layered with homophobia. That, I suppose, is to appease the males who are not pleased with the subject of two men/one woman in a sexual situation. Considering the changes that we see on the small screen, writers and producers are looking to expand the parameters of what is acceptable content for a greater audience. Young male friends, however, have been known to share a female as a way to (ostensibly) bond with each other. For some guys who are curious about sex with another male this may be a “safe” way to experiment. Guys who have entered into a threesome with one of their buddies have been known to sometimes joke about it later by referring to the female involved as easy or eager to find a willing sex partner. Remember that I am only discussing these reports anecdotally, so this is not statistically sound information. It does, I believe, spark an interest in how the data would look if the topic is researched and studied in depth. Future Ph.D candidates in the field of Sexology take note. I may have just given you an idea for a dissertation thesis. You’re welcome!